Stick Work

Let's paint a picture.

Imagine that you wake up in the morning feeling ready for your day. You are inspired to create. Perhaps you took the risk of starting your own business, or personal offering that serves people in the world. You are working on making your dreams come true. It feels risky but you feel okay about that. Maybe you have a partner or spouse and that relationship feels nourishing. You Know that you have a circle of friends that you can count on. Maybe you don't talk to them every day, but you know they are out there if you need them. Even just knowing that your friends are out there and care about you feels good to you.

This is a picture of secure attachment. It is an example of what it feels like when our nervous system trust our ability to take risks, work towards our dreams, and believe in our personal relationships.

Unfortunately, not all of us have this experience of life. When the attachment system consists of a collection of insecure relational experiences, perhaps gathered from our early childhood wounding, we don't feel safe to take the risks or start the business, and there may be a sense of not belonging in the world and our relationships. In the world of someone living with an insecure attachment system, relationship isn't reliable and anxiety drives the bus, often causing worry about the status and security of our relationships.

What many people don't realize that their lives don't have to stay this way. In fact, the attachment system can be re-patterened and re-imprinted with an updated operating system; one that trusts the experiences of life.

Let me introduce, "Stick Work"

Adult Attachment Repair Model, aka "Stick Work" is an experiential and relational healing modality focused on improving the health of the attachment system and the re-patterning of maladaptive early attachment imprinting. Using a literal ‘stick’, the practice creates an experience of secure attachment that allows clients to engage with themes of belonging, acceptance, boundaries, empowerment, and healthy connection. The process is about creating an alive, felt experience of agency, support, and mutual regulation.

Each Stick Work session encodes an experience of secure attachment directly into the nervous system. Over time, each corrective experience adds up in somatic memory and creates a new baseline of wellbeing, one that is secure in relationship and life. A healthy attachment to reference amongst the ebbs and flows of Life.